Just like being black, brown, white or freckled isn’t a choice, neither is being gay. Being gay is a gift, it’s one of the many different ways to be human on this earth.
Coming out involves coming out to yourself, and then those around you, and only you will know when is the best time for that to happen. We advise coming out in a place you feel safe, and to someone whom you trust.
Coming out can be scary, but knowing what resources and programs to go to makes it easier. It helps to surround yourself with positive and supportive people, and create a safe space.
– Tyler, Grade 9 student
The best way to deal with bullying at school with respect to your identity is to refer to a teacher or counsellor (whom you trust) immediately. That way, you have someone at your school looking out for you at all times, and that is easily accessible.
Be open, empathetic and listen when that friend needs to talk or share experiences. Use the pronouns that they identify with and use their chosen name.
Hormones are found in all of our bodies, and become active during puberty. For some trans people, taking hormones such as testosterone or estrogen through medications can help their bodies to grow into ones that better align with their identities.
Personally I am a lot happier since transitioning to Male from Female. I am a lot more confident, self aware, and feel more like myself
– Shayne, Get REAL facilitator
If someone transitioned to male and is dating a woman, they are currently in a heterosexual relationship. They may identify with an open sexuality, but identifying as male and dating a woman defines a "straight" relationship.
Yes. While it may be difficult in certain circumstances, it is more than possible to develop your own relationship with religion where you are accepted for being exactly who you are.
There are many religious organizations who welcome and embrace the LBGTQ+ community!
– Lital, Get REAL facilitator
The best thing you can do is create a safe space for your child, be patient, and don’t dismiss their questioning as “just a phase”. Educate yourself on gender identity/sexual orientation so you’ll be more prepared to have an open dialogue with them. Most importantly, remind your child that you love and accept them, no matter what.
*All answers have been provided by Get REAL facilitators and are representative of our most frequently asked questions.
People who are attracted to a different gender (e.g. women who are attracted to men, or men who are attracted to women) often call themselves straight or heterosexual.
A sexual and affectional orientation toward people of the same gender.
A woman whose primary sexual and affectional orientation is toward people of the same gender.
A person whose primary sexual and affectional orientation is toward people of the same and other genders, or towards people regardless of their gender.
An umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or expression is different from cultural expectations based on the sex they were assigned at birth. Being transgender does not imply any specific sexual orientation. Transgender people may identify as straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc.
A gender identity and experience that embraces a full universe of expressions and ways of being that resonate for an individual. It may be an active resistance to binary gender expectations and/or an intentional creation of new unbounded ideas of self within the world.
Those who have romantic, sexual or affectional desire for people of all genders and sexes.
A sexual orientation generally characterized by not feeling sexual attraction or a desire for partnered sexuality. Asexuality is distinct from celibacy, which is the deliberate abstention from sexual activity. Some asexual people do have sex. There are many diverse ways of being asexual.
A romantic orientation generally characterized by not feeling romantic attraction or a desire for romance. Aromantic people can be satisfied by friendship and other non-romantic relationships.
A person who identifies as having both a masculine and a feminine spirit, this term is used by some Indigenous people to describe their sexual, gender and/or spiritual identity. As an umbrella term it may encompass same-sex attraction and a wide variety of gender variance.
Sex is a set of characteristics associated with reproduction and biology that generally assign individuals into categories of “male” and “female.” Gender is set of cultural constructs describing characteristics that may historically be related to femininity, masculinity, women, men, nonbinary people, or social norms.
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“In December of this year, our GSA hosted a successful holiday cookie decorating party at lunch! We set up stations with the different toppings so people could mingle and talk as they walked from table to table. We charged $1/cookie, which came with as much decoration as they wanted, and the funds are going to an LGBTQ+ charity! The event was a huge success, and we look forward to doing it again next year.”
- Abby, President, London Central Secondary School GSA